Tuesday, April 6, 2010
Monday, February 15, 2010
Declaration: I'm a Widow
You might already know that I am a widow, but it's only been recently that I have fully embraced this part of my identity.
My first husband died in 1995, after 11 years of marriage and the births of two beautiful daughters--and six years after I predicted it. I knew the experience would change me, but I didn't want to be different. I wanted to be who I had always been, and I wanted my husband to be by my side. Alas...
In the ensuing years, I tried not to wear my widowhood like a badge. I didn't want to be seen as someone who had a piece of her heart missing. I wanted to be a whole and happy person, so much so that I didn't allow my widow-self to show much. I kept her inside most of the time, occasionally sharing a few tears with her, and commiserating that we didn't get any credit for being such a good widow.
I was so afraid of being defined by my widowhood that I didn't allow it to be a part of my definition at all.
The other day, a friend helped me to see this--not directly, but she talked to me about feeling whatever negative feelings we have, so that we can move on to the happy feelings. And I started thinking about all the badges I wear--mother, daughter, sister, teacher, friend, hopefully wife again someday--and the ones I keep in a drawer--widow, ACOA, ex-wife, ex-girlfriend...
What badges do you wear, and what badges do you keep to yourself? Even if you don't want to share the "negative" ones, I encourage you to at least open the drawer and try them on in front of the mirror. Just once in a while, let them know you haven't forgotten them, and they are a part of who you are.
Until next time,
Susan K. Morrow
www.SusanKMorrow.com
Susan@SusanKMorrow.com
936-648-3955
My first husband died in 1995, after 11 years of marriage and the births of two beautiful daughters--and six years after I predicted it. I knew the experience would change me, but I didn't want to be different. I wanted to be who I had always been, and I wanted my husband to be by my side. Alas...
In the ensuing years, I tried not to wear my widowhood like a badge. I didn't want to be seen as someone who had a piece of her heart missing. I wanted to be a whole and happy person, so much so that I didn't allow my widow-self to show much. I kept her inside most of the time, occasionally sharing a few tears with her, and commiserating that we didn't get any credit for being such a good widow.
I was so afraid of being defined by my widowhood that I didn't allow it to be a part of my definition at all.
The other day, a friend helped me to see this--not directly, but she talked to me about feeling whatever negative feelings we have, so that we can move on to the happy feelings. And I started thinking about all the badges I wear--mother, daughter, sister, teacher, friend, hopefully wife again someday--and the ones I keep in a drawer--widow, ACOA, ex-wife, ex-girlfriend...
What badges do you wear, and what badges do you keep to yourself? Even if you don't want to share the "negative" ones, I encourage you to at least open the drawer and try them on in front of the mirror. Just once in a while, let them know you haven't forgotten them, and they are a part of who you are.
Until next time,
Susan K. Morrow
www.SusanKMorrow.com
Susan@SusanKMorrow.com
936-648-3955
Sunday, February 7, 2010
Feeling Funky, Feeling Blue
I've had a rough couple of weeks. It's true--the woman known as the Cheerful Mystic and Happy Medium (couldn't resist) occasionally runs into rough waters. And it sucks. Fortunately, these moments don't last, and yes, I DO work on getting them to end faster!
Some folks (maybe you) feel like it's always rough. Their lives feel like they are not their own, and they feel like they don't have any control over what happens to them. Believe it or not, that is not true. YOU are the creator of your life, whether you like what you've created or not!
Here's what I have been doing lately to get out of my funk:
1) Forcing myself to "think happy thoughts". I'm not kidding. I consciously embrace fantasies of trips to Disney World, my dream house (which is coming soon), and fun encounters with others. I find that fantasies are better than memories, not because they are any different to your brain or the Universe, but because they can be perfect, and with perfect thoughts come perfect feelings of joy, ultimately resulting in a shift in your energy and a better day.
2) Asking myself, "What was I thinking before this all started?" This can be more complicated, but you can think about what your thoughts were and connect them to what's going on now, what you've created with those thoughts. Don't dwell, just understand. Sometimes it helps to know "Why did I create THIS???"
If you need help with this type of exercise, something that will change the results of your constant CREATING... You know where to find me!
Until next time,
y'all be good!
Susan K. Morrow
http://SusanKMorrow.com
512-257-2737
Some folks (maybe you) feel like it's always rough. Their lives feel like they are not their own, and they feel like they don't have any control over what happens to them. Believe it or not, that is not true. YOU are the creator of your life, whether you like what you've created or not!
Here's what I have been doing lately to get out of my funk:
1) Forcing myself to "think happy thoughts". I'm not kidding. I consciously embrace fantasies of trips to Disney World, my dream house (which is coming soon), and fun encounters with others. I find that fantasies are better than memories, not because they are any different to your brain or the Universe, but because they can be perfect, and with perfect thoughts come perfect feelings of joy, ultimately resulting in a shift in your energy and a better day.
2) Asking myself, "What was I thinking before this all started?" This can be more complicated, but you can think about what your thoughts were and connect them to what's going on now, what you've created with those thoughts. Don't dwell, just understand. Sometimes it helps to know "Why did I create THIS???"
If you need help with this type of exercise, something that will change the results of your constant CREATING... You know where to find me!
Until next time,
y'all be good!
Susan K. Morrow
http://SusanKMorrow.com
512-257-2737
Tuesday, January 19, 2010
Tuesday, January 12, 2010
Channeling Money
As a modern mystic, capable of all manner of surreal tasks, I channel messages from my clients' angels and guides, on the clients' behalf. (Want your own Mystic Mail? Find out about it here.)
One recent such message was so profound and timely that I feel it is really important to share. In fact, when the message started to come through me, I had the feeling that it was for a much larger audience than the client. Her question was about money and how it was her biggest concern at the moment.
Here's the answer from her angels and guides:
Our dear, everyone's biggest concern is money. Yes, it truly is. The man in the 3rd-world country wants to feed his family and the woman at the top of the stock market wants to buy a new Mercedes. Money makes the world go around. So rather than looking at money like a problem, like something you wish you didn't have to think about, embrace it. It's just like eating, sleeping, and pooping, Everybody's gotta do it every day. So what do YOU need to do? Keep doing what you're doing, but do it with love, change your attitude to one that says, "I love me, and I love the people I love. I work at this because I love me, and if I don't love this work, then I am not loving me, so I will do other work." When you want to change your work, you ask the right people and you find out what other work to do. If you don't want to work at all, then set your sights on that. You don't have to plan it, like "I want this much money, so I can go this long without working and live in this way". But you can say, "I want to have freedom in my life!" And that will find its way to you. Embrace money not as a necessary evil or as something that has always eluded you, but as your friend, your partner in creating a life that you love and want every day. It's not that you want to look past it, or to forget anything you have learned, not at all, but you are using everything you know, and now you know more. You know that it is your friend, so invite it to tea. Say, "Hello, money, I love you, and I need you, and guess what--you need me too, so let's be friends and let's have fun together. Thanks for being there for me." It may not feel true today, but it will be true tomorrow. We could just shake you until this sinks into your head. But you can do it yourself. Believe us, we're true. True blue!
And I will leave you with those thoughts, along with your own angels and guides.
Until next time,
Susan K. Morrow
Susan@SusanKMorrow.com
http://susankmorrow.com/
512-257-2737
One recent such message was so profound and timely that I feel it is really important to share. In fact, when the message started to come through me, I had the feeling that it was for a much larger audience than the client. Her question was about money and how it was her biggest concern at the moment.
Here's the answer from her angels and guides:
Our dear, everyone's biggest concern is money. Yes, it truly is. The man in the 3rd-world country wants to feed his family and the woman at the top of the stock market wants to buy a new Mercedes. Money makes the world go around. So rather than looking at money like a problem, like something you wish you didn't have to think about, embrace it. It's just like eating, sleeping, and pooping, Everybody's gotta do it every day. So what do YOU need to do? Keep doing what you're doing, but do it with love, change your attitude to one that says, "I love me, and I love the people I love. I work at this because I love me, and if I don't love this work, then I am not loving me, so I will do other work." When you want to change your work, you ask the right people and you find out what other work to do. If you don't want to work at all, then set your sights on that. You don't have to plan it, like "I want this much money, so I can go this long without working and live in this way". But you can say, "I want to have freedom in my life!" And that will find its way to you. Embrace money not as a necessary evil or as something that has always eluded you, but as your friend, your partner in creating a life that you love and want every day. It's not that you want to look past it, or to forget anything you have learned, not at all, but you are using everything you know, and now you know more. You know that it is your friend, so invite it to tea. Say, "Hello, money, I love you, and I need you, and guess what--you need me too, so let's be friends and let's have fun together. Thanks for being there for me." It may not feel true today, but it will be true tomorrow. We could just shake you until this sinks into your head. But you can do it yourself. Believe us, we're true. True blue!
And I will leave you with those thoughts, along with your own angels and guides.
Until next time,
Susan K. Morrow
Susan@SusanKMorrow.com
http://susankmorrow.com/
512-257-2737
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